“Get honest,” I replied.
Sounded so simple coming out of my mouth last week, but back when I was struggling with food, it was the hardest thing for me to do.
I didn’t know that at the time – I was just busy…
Busy running around trying to fix my life.
Busy proving myself so I could be liked.
Busy distracting myself from the gnawing loneliness.
I didn’t have time to sit with myself. I didn’t have time to sit at all.
In fact, I didn’t really have any space – both inside of myself and around me – where I could just relax and take stock.
It made me anxious just thinking about it.
Food was an easier respite. It was my answer to having time for me – where everyone and everything else came second and it was just all about what I wanted.
Food was my excuse to finally do something for me.
Or so I thought. See that’s where my delusions crowded my judgement and I thought I was getting what I wanted. But really I was getting further away from what I wanted.
I wanted to not be obsessed about food all the time and constantly trying to be perfect.
I wanted to feel confident and make healthy choices.
I wanted to just be me and be loved just the way am.
But food kept me hiding, holding back and feeling inauthentic.
It wasn’t until I got so completely miserable emotionally – sad, lonely, depressed – that was finally ready to get honest and admit to myself that my way of doing things wasn’t working.
And once I did, the strangest thing happened. Instead of it being condemning, it actually felt freeing.
I realized that I had been putting off getting honest because I didn’t want to feel any worse about myself than I already did. But honesty worked the opposite way. It actually took the pressure off and allowed me to exhale.
Like turning on the lights in a dark room, honesty shed light on what had been in the shadows and in so doing, turned my hiding into hope.
Which is why I want to help you with getting honest. Because this is truly your Freedom Foundation and something I help my clients with a lot. And I get that part of you would rather roll down a hill of thumb tacs…
So I want to give you 3 Easy Steps to Getting Honest so you can start building your foundation and activate your path to freedom right away:
3 Easy Steps to Getting Honest:
Start Simple: There is no right or wrong. Get out of the judgement. The only question to ask is, “how is what I’m doing working?” Then listen for your gut response, not your head’s.
Be Curious: Curiosity instead of condemnation. Adopting an attitude of curiosity lets you get real without making you wrong so you can start asking the questions that will lead you to the real solution.
Get Connected: Get with someone who gets you and has been where you’ve been. It’s vital you find someone who gets you around the food thing and who you can be real with. You’ll be more likely to get honest if you know you’re going to be understood by someone who isn’t going to judge you or minimize your problem.
Reply to this message and let me know how these tools work in your life. They’ve been game changers in mine.
And if you’re looking for women who get you when it comes to food and won’t judge, come connect with us in the Freedom Embodied LIVE fb group. This is a free community specifically for women who want more freedom around food.
I post weekly tools and resources in there and it’s a great place to realize you’re not alone. You can join by clicking here: https://www.facebook.com/
In dedication of all things raw, real and recovered,