Each of us has a choice: To continue living our lives based on our current story, current prejudices and current ideas…

Or to be willing to have a new experience.

This is the secret of getting out of your own way and accessing a new level of freedom from food (or any other addiction holding you back).

Let me explain.

See, so many of us feel stuck in our sabotage cycle with food because we are doing one or more of the following:

1. Trying to apply the same old strategy, ideas and tools that got you to where you currently find yourself
2. Convinced you should be able to figure things out on your own (which results in applying the same old strategy, ideas and tools that got you to where you currently find yourself)
3. Loitering the edge of your “familiarity zone” (a.k.a. Your “known world” – the world that contains everything you think you know), wanting to breakthrough and have a new experience, but at the same time, unwilling to take a step into the unknown.

Do you relate to one or more of these things?

If you do, don’t judge yourself. Almost everyone relates to this stuff. We kind of can’t help it because we’re sooo attached to our way of seeing and doing things.

In fact, we’re addicted to our way of seeing and doing things!

Which is why last Friday’s Facebook Live was all about How To Get Out Of Your Own Way And Stop Sabotaging (with food or any other addiction holding you back).

Click here to watch and find out the 4 things you need to do to get out of your way right now so you can access a new level of freedom.

(This video is packed with juiciness, so I invite you to watch all 28 min! Go for a 30 min walk, listen during your commute, watch while washing the dishes…just take a little “me” time and dive in.)

Because here’s the truth, If you know deep down that you’re here for something bigger – to shine your light, to share your gifts, to help others…

Then the longer you “loiter” at the edge of your familiarity zone, afraid to take that first courageous step into the unknown, the more frustrated, resentful and uncomfortable you’ll get…

And the more likely you’ll be to sabotage with food.

Which is why I invite you to make a choice right now. Decide to see this moment as your opportunity to have an entirely new experience.

Then watch this 28 min video and follow the 4 steps to getting out of your own way so you can activate your path of real freedom now.

Do you sometimes think you’ve gotten your food under control…but secretly anticipate the day you revert to your old ways?

This is such a common place to be. Especially when you have lots of nutrition knowledge and have already tried so many things before that haven’t worked.

It can feel like you’re never going to get this or that freedom is just not possible for you.

Neither are true.

The truth is that most folks are trying to fix a problem (with food) that they don’t fully understand and are doing it with an insufficient and oftentimes totally flawed approach.

That’s why last week on Facebook I shared a FB Live video on what it really takes to be free from food – or any other addiction for that matter.

Because as much as we want to make it about the food (sticking to your plan, being “good,” controlling what you can or can’t have, etc.)…

Being free has nothing to do with all that.

Click here to find out what being free does involve.

At min 06:54 in the video we discuss the specific mindset that distinguishes someone who is bound for freedom vs someone who will stay stuck and lost

At min 16:40 you learn the common default pattern of addiction that will prevent you from being free – and what to do instead so that you can get free from the pattern and from food

At min 22:05 you find out the secret to move beyond where you are right now, so that you’re not living in the same cycles and sabotage patterns

At min 27:44 you learn the one thing that will fast track your path of real freedom more than anything, get you unstuck when you get in your “stuff” and have you not feel alone on your journey ever again

If you’re sick and tired of feeling frustrated, guilty and ashamed when it comes to food, it’s probably a sign that you’re ready for an entirely new relationship with food where you…

…don’t obsess about food all the time

…only eat when you’re hungry

…stop eating and lose interest in food once you get full

…have the energy to do be more active and social

…are able to connect meaningfully and authentically with others

And where you truly feel comfortable in your skin.

This isn’t Pollyanna or Pipe Dream stuff. This is actually possible for you. That’s why I want you to know 5 things that will get you on your path to being there.

Watch last week’s Facebook Live video to learn what those 5 things are. Or you can click here to catch the whole thing on Youtube.

Too many smart folks are constantly beating themselves up and feeling frustrated because they are trying to figure things out on their own and embarrassed by so many failed attempts.

If that’s you, then it’s time to find out what to do instead to get on your path of real lasting freedom today.

I never used to be able to stop eating. If something tasted good – a bowl of cereal, a scoop of peanut butter, a slice of bread, I wanted more. 

It was as though something else took over after that first bite, making it impossible for me to just have a serving.

Even if I wasn’t even hungry to begin with!

I’d come up with some justification in my head…

You’ve been so good today!

You’ve been giving everything to everyone else – you deserve this!

Just have it already so you can stop obsessing on whether or not you should have it.

It’s just a little bit. It’s not that bad. 

I’ll start tomorrow.

You’ve already blown it so just go for it.

I don’t care. I’ll deal with the consequences later.

This is my only treat!

Or I wouldn’t think of anything at all. I’d just find myself eating without really remembering how it started.

Have you ever had a similar thing happen? 

…intending to just have a bite and winding up eating the whole thing…

…eating when you’re not hungry, and not stopping when you get full…

…justifying why i’t ok this time…

Or not even thinking at all?

If you can relate, then I want to share what it took for me to truly guilt free from all that.

(When I say free, I don’t just mean ‘I’m on a good run of sticking to my plan’…I mean that I no longer eat when I’m not hungry and I stop eating when I’m full. I enjoy food but I don’t obsess about it. I feel intuitively guided by what to eat and experience food as nourishment. Enjoyble nourishment.)

Because for me getting free didn’t come from all the usual default strategies…

• Calorie counting
• Keeping a food journal
• Cleanses and detoxing
• Using an App
• Sticking to an eating regimen
• Having a cheat day
• Trying different diets
• Trying to be “good” 
• Trying to “not care” 
• Trying to not beat myself up
• Trying to eat everything in moderation

…or any other “food focused” approach.

All that stuff did was give me this false sense of success for a few days or weeks, followed by yet another failed attempt and more embarrassment, frustration and shame.

(In my opinion, if you’ve struggled with your relationship with food for any length of time, you’ve already hit your lifetime quota of embarrassment, frustration, and shame.)

Which is why I want to share what it really takes. Or at least what it really took for me and the folks I have an opportunity to work with:

Getting to the root of what’s driving you to fill up on food in the first place.

I’m not just talking about feeling lonely, or being stressed, or stuffing your feelings or living your life for everyone else and never taking time for you.

Those are all symptoms of what’s really going on. 

What’s really going on is the underlying discomfort and dis-ease that’s driving you to see ease and comfort in food in the first place. 

To find out where this comes from and get some quick tips to start addressing it right away, click here to watch last week’s Facebook Live where you can read the comments or catch the video on Youtube here.

At min 07:30 I define what it really means to have a food addiction 

At min 10:50 I dive deeper into how the underlying discomfort and dis-ease shows up in body, mind, and spirit

At min 14:45 I reveal what drives this internal discomfort and dis-ease in the first place

At min 19:16 I talk about what it takes to have an internal sense of ease and comfort so food can be nourishment instead of our source of comfort

At min 25:19 I give you some quick tips to get you on the path of living congruently right away

Here’s the thing, I spent decades trying to fix a problem with food that I didn’t fully understand with an insufficient solution. And that kept me running in circles, feeling like a fraud and being perpetually ashamed and hard on myself.

If you suspect you’re at that place yourself,  trying to fix a problem with an insufficient solution and going in circles, then firstly, I acknowledge you big time. It takes a lot of courage to admit that what you’re doing is not working.

And, if you’re open to discovering a way that can have you living free from food addiction and obsession – where you can enjoy food but not turn to it for comfort and fulfillment, then I would love to help you have just that. 

If that is something that calls to you, schedule a call on my calendar and I can help you get clear in just a few minutes on exactly where to start and what to do to to get on your path of true, lasting freedom. 

P.S. I used to hate it when I’d hear people telling me they had these great results and that I can have them too. Because deep down I didn’t think it was possible for me and I didn’t want to get even more disappointed in myself. 

What I came to discover was that I was right! It wasn’t possible the way I’d been doing it. 

But once I asked for help, discovered the real solution and got the support that guided me past my blocks and stuckness, I found that all I needed to do take one baby step at a time and trust the process instead of trying to figure everything out on my own.

And one day, I heard my tummy growl and realized that it was lunchtime and I hadn’t thought about food since breakfast! That was a first. I then noticed myself not going to food unless I was actually hungry, and when I got full, I’d actually stop eating. 

Which of these stresses you out the most:

1. Not wanting to disappoint or let others down
2. Feeling like you have to do or figure everything out on your own
3. Fearing that you’re going to mess up
4. Feeling like whatever you do it isn’t enough

I remember when I was “E,” all of the above.

(To get my simple technique for calming stress right away, watch this short video.)

Ironically it was when I was also a fitness expert, running a health club and looking like I had it together.

From the outside, I was positive, friendly and always smiling. But inside, I was a pressure cooker of self-judgement and shame.

I constantly felt like I was letting everyone down.

I was convinced others were judging me because they knew I was a total fraud.

And I felt this constant tension in my gut because no matter what I did, it never felt like enough.

Do you relate?

If you do, I want to share with you a 5 min clip from a recent talk I gave to a couple hundred incredible women in Vegas on how to de-stress.

You can watch the video by clicking here.

In it, I share one of my favorite embodiment practices for getting out of stress anytime, anywhere.

If you have a tendency to “future trip,” feel anxious or get overwhelmed by everything on your plate, then this quick tip can help you feel calmer and more centered in just a few seconds.

Try it out and let me know how it works for you.

In dedication of ALL of you, (even the parts of you you reject, judge, resent or hate) ️️