Which of these stresses you out the most:

1. Not wanting to disappoint or let others down
2. Feeling like you have to do or figure everything out on your own
3. Fearing that you’re going to mess up
4. Feeling like whatever you do it isn’t enough

I remember when I was “E,” all of the above.

(To get my simple technique for calming stress right away, watch this short video.)

Ironically it was when I was also a fitness expert, running a health club and looking like I had it together.

From the outside, I was positive, friendly and always smiling. But inside, I was a pressure cooker of self-judgement and shame.

I constantly felt like I was letting everyone down.

I was convinced others were judging me because they knew I was a total fraud.

And I felt this constant tension in my gut because no matter what I did, it never felt like enough.

Do you relate?

If you do, I want to share with you a 5 min clip from a recent talk I gave to a couple hundred incredible women in Vegas on how to de-stress.

You can watch the video by clicking here.

In it, I share one of my favorite embodiment practices for getting out of stress anytime, anywhere.

If you have a tendency to “future trip,” feel anxious or get overwhelmed by everything on your plate, then this quick tip can help you feel calmer and more centered in just a few seconds.

Try it out and let me know how it works for you.

In dedication of ALL of you, (even the parts of you you reject, judge, resent or hate) ️️

I’ve been reflecting on some of my favorite freedom success stories from clients…

…like Carey, who got free from her food addiction and dropped 50 lbs when “something just clicked” after months of resistance.

…and Colleen, whose business and bank account boomed after she got free from her obsession and got congruent with her purpose.

…and Jackie who got free from binging, restricting and trying to control food, found her true calling as a holistic healer and met the love of her life after a decade of singledom.

These women and many more who’ve gotten free from their addictions and obsession all share some similar qualities that I want you to know about.

Because I’ve heard too many times from frustrated food addicts…

“it’s always going to be like this”

“I’ve tried everything, nothing works”

“I feel stuck and don’t know what to do”

And yet I’ve witnessed with my own eyes people who also thought freedom wasn’t possible for them GET FREE AND STAY FREE from their addictions and obsessions. 1

Which is why I want to give you some insider secret success strategies that can help you get on and stay on your own path of freedom – from whatever is blocking you.

So here’s the list below.

What People Who Get And Stay Free From Food Addiction All Have In Common:

1. They are willing to set aside their story and to not know the answers
2. They are willing to ask for help and get support
3. They are willing to get honest with themselves
4. They show up, even and especially when they are in their stuff
5. They take action in spite of their fears
6. They are willing to go deeper and get to the root of what’s blocking them
7. They reach out when they get stuck
8. They play full out and dive in with both feet
9. They learn how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable
10. They have a purpose or calling that’s bigger than them and that pulls them forward
11. They see wherever they are as an access point or launching pad for a new level of freedom
12. They want to continually grow so they can shine their light even brighter in the world

So tell me Name, when you read this list, do you feel like these are things you are willing to do too? Hit reply and let me know.

Whether you’re a “heck yeah!” or feeling stuck on a few, I’d be happy to support you wherever you’re at, so you can be clear on your specific next steps to having what you truly want.

I still remember the dizzy hot sweat I went into that day at 9 years old when my acting teacher said, “I’m directing the upcoming play and I really think you should audition for it.”

He might as well have said, “I think you should string yourself up by the toes so that your stomach drops into your chest and your head feels like it’s going to explode with pressure.”

Because that’s what it felt like.

The terror of standing in front of a panel of people who were judging my performance and deciding if I was worthy enough to get cast in a play was more than my tender self esteem could handle.

Now, you may wonder what I was doing in an acting class in the first place. But that’s the irony. See I knew that I had a talent. I knew I was meant to shine my light. So taking a class was my way of doing something in that direction.

But when I was actually presented with an opportunity to truly step into my light – to get out of the classroom – and to actually LIVE my dream, I shriveled.

It was waaay too intimidating. The fear of messing up, the fear of looking stupid, the fear of getting rejected…

Better to just stay in the classroom, where I could hone and practice skills, but never be put to the test of really needing to put myself out there.

Do you relate to any of this?

Feeling like you’re preparing and planning for life, but lacking the confidence to actually LIVE it?

If you do, trust me, you’re not alone.

Not only have I been there, but in the countless conversations I’ve had with perfectionists, high achievers and people pleasers over the years, this is the #1 thing I hear from them too. 

Some people call this staying in our comfort zone. But I don’t think there is anything comfortable about this zone.

In fact, it feels awful to play small and hold back. The self judgement is the worst. Getting down on yourself for not being where you “should” be by now, embarrassed by where you are…

You just want to scream to yourself, “DO SOMETHING!” But instead, you freeze. You get overwhelmed. You get dizzy. Your heart pounds out of your chest, and you think, “NO WAY! This clearly is not the path for me.”

So you stay put…

…getting distracted by all the other things going on in your life…

And somehow, that thing that’s calling you forward – that deep desire to help others or shine your light or live your purpose – gets blotted out by the noise of the every day, and you go back to business as usual.

Only it gnaws at you.

And so you have to do more and more to blot it out…distraction…obsession and even addiction.

There is nothing comfortable about this.

That’s why I call it a convenience zone.

It’s convenient to have so much going on that you can’t get on with discovering your purpose.

It’s convenient that your family is endlessly requiring you to be mediator and get everything under control.

It’s convenient that everyone needs you so you can never take time for you.

It’s convenient that work is demanding more from you than even and it feels like whatever you do it isn’t enough.

Or in my case…

It’s convenient to tell yourself that you’re not ready, and that maybe next year, you’ll be good and ready to try out for the play.

Whatever our convenience zone looks like, the result is the same:

A life that feels unfulfilled. Like something is missing – even if you have so many other things to be grateful for.

The truth is that, when we’re not going for the things that stretch us outside our “convenience” zone, we’re not truly living.

Which is why I want to share with you the one tool that I want everyone I know to start using right away. Because this one thing, once I truly applied and integrated it, catapulted me to new levels of freedom, confidence and a deep sense of joy.

Get comfortable in the discomfort.

Let’s face it, most of us don’t like discomfort. Ever.

In fact, we’d rather trade the short term comfort (ice cream anyone?) for the long term discomfort. (And then perpetually be forced to “treat” the long term discomfort.)

Anything to not feel the tension, anxiety, overwhelm, loneliness, grief, fear, shame or disappointment in the moment.

But here’s the problem with that. Growth requires discomfort.

And anything that involves living your purpose, shining your light or helping others requires growth.

As Anais Nin reminds us, “and the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud, was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

Even nature reminds us of this fact.

So instead of shying away from discomfort, or numbing it out all together, I invite you to use discomfort as a guide. An indication of exactly where to lean in.

Because I can assure you, that if something is bringing up all your stuff, (the hot sweats, dizziness and palpitations) this isn’t a sign that you’re on the wrong path.

This is actually a sign that you’ve just stumbled right onto it.

Do you relate to these statements?

1. I feel like I’m always going and it’s hard to turn off
2. I want to slow down and just BE, but something always gets in the way
3. I’m always rushing – running late, over-committing myself, spreading myself thin
4. If I could just get everything under control, I’d be fine
5. I get uncomfortable when things are out of control
6. I am constantly trying to fix myself or others
7. It’s hard for me to sit still
8. My mind is always active
9. It’s hard for me to get to sleep at night
10. I wake up in the middle of the night thinking or worrying about things
11. Everyone thinks I’m together, but inside I’m super hard on myself
12. I have so much to be grateful for but I don’t feel like I am present enough for it

If you answered “yes” to several of these questions, it’s possible that you might have something I refer to as “chronic disembodiment syndrome.”

Chronic disembodiment syndrome is when you live up in your head constantly – analyzing everything, trying to figure stuff out, planning ahead, thinking things through…

…wanting to just get on top of things…

All so you can finally just be.

But the problem with chronic disembodiment syndrome there is always something else to do, a person to help, a project to plan, an email to send or an errand to run, and so you never can.

So you’re forever spinning in your mind, trying to show up for everything, not wanting to disappoint anyone and all the while feeling misunderstood, exhausted and perhaps a little resentful.

Does this sound familiar at all?

If it does, firstly I want to say I totally get it.

This describes how I lived for most of my life, even as a “mind-body” Pilates teacher!

I thought I was connected to my body and able to just “be,” but the truth was that I was more or less always…

…worrying what others thought

…getting down on myself

…obsessing about my body

…replaying yesterday’s conversation

…analyzing what someone said

…planning for the next big thing

…“checking out” while talking with people

…not paying attention

…arriving at a destination with no recollection of how I got there…

And fixating on what I needed to do so that I could finally just slow down and relax.

What I didn’t know at the time, was that my tendency to chronically up in my head didn’t just mean I would be chronically distracted, overly busy and feeling that whatever I did wasn’t enough…

It also meant I’d totally lost touch with myself.

I felt lost, lonely and lacking purpose. In some ways, I didn’t even know who I was anymore. I was so used to “doing” things, but I didn’t know who I was outside of that.

I didn’t know what was authentically me.

If in reading this you self-identify as someone who’s also chronically up in your head, then I want to share some of the very foundational tools that got me on my path of learning how to get out of my head so I could finally just be.

You can download these tools right here.

I’m passionate about you starting on the path of embodiment, because since launching on mine, I’ve discovered a whole new level of what it means to feel whole, connected and like I’m never alone.

And I want you to have that too.

So, I invite you to download this free Instant Embodiment Reset Guide, with 5 insider secrets to get out of your head and feel comfortable in your skin.

I hope you find these tools and practices as valuable as they have been for me, so please hit reply to this email, and let me know.

Is it hard for you to sit still? Take this quiz(I’d love to hear if you related to the quiz questions above! So feel free to let me know that too! NO JUDGEMENT)